independent escorts in Southend-on-sea

What's an independent escort?

An independent escort is a sexworker who works on her own, without the intermediation of an agency or another third-party. Escorts choose to work independently because they have more control on schedule, rates and which clients they see.

Independent escorts leverage their unique individual qualities to differentiate themselves. What truly makes an independent escort independent, however, is their dedication to provide unforgettable experiences.

The best independent escorts want to make a genuine connection with their clients. To them, meeting gentlemen is more than just work, it's a genuine interest they want to entertain.

What's the difference between independent and high class escorts?

The distinctive characteristics of high class escorts are impeccable manners and discetion. They are at ease in exclusive social engagements and provide companionship to gentlemen that don't want awkward questions. Because of that, they charge higher rates than other sex workers. To give you an idea, in London, high class escorts start at £400 per hour.

Less concerned about bedroom activities and more with discretion, often they don't publish a list of sexual services. That doesn't mean they are not up for fun. Like a real partner, they want to be respected, treated well and seduced rather than be demanded to perform sexual activities.

Independent escorts don't have to be high class escorts. And high class escorts don't have to be independent, but being smart and beautiful women, many high class escorts choose to work independently, combining the best of both worlds.

Independent high class escorts invest heavily in promoting themselves. Travel companion, elite courtesan, secret girlfriend are some of the labels they use. At the end of the day what matters is the level of service they provide.

Why should I choose an independent escort?

An independent escort is the perfect choice if you are looking for female company and want more than just a physical act. A one-night girlfriend. A friend to take to dinner and bed. An experienced woman with whom explore your sexuality. Whether you're young or old, romantic or kinky, shy or confident, all you need to do is find the right one.

If you are concerned about privacy, independent escorts are great choice, since without intermediaries, fewer eyes will see your personal details.

How do I make sure an independent escort is right for me?

When you'll see the right one, you'll know! But don't stop there. To make sure she's what you want, check reviews, other directories, her website and her twitter if she has one.

Twitter is fantastic to find out what kind of person your potential date is. It's important that you double check everything, not only to avoid scams and an awkward date with someone you don't like, but also as reality check.

Advertising can be misleading, and escort advertising is no different. It's not uncommon for escorts to advertise themselves in a more flattering way than in reality. Escorts often lie or don't disclose the full story on things they are insecure about.

You'll find few escorts are honest about their age. Most take away a few years, though it's not rare to find escorts advertising themselves as 10 years younger.

The second most-common misleading information in escort advertising is enhancements. In this case, if you pay attention to the pictures, you'll be able to spot it.

Reviews can help you assess the genuinity of an escort, but they need to be taken with a pinch of salt. Reviewers tend to overstate positive encounters to show off and at the same time, they tend to give negative judgment for minor issues.

What if there are no escorts I like near me?

Independent escorts love to travel and visit new places. They're often availabe to travel to your location - a service called FMTY, fly me to you. Travelling by train has been making a comeback and some escorts have started to offer TMTY - train me to you.

FMTY dates are more expensive and require a longer minimum booking. If it's the first time you're meeting, you can expect a more thorough screening process and you may have to pay the entire fee in advance.

FMTY is a great option if you'd love to visit a place and don't want to do so alone. Book your favourite escort to come along!

FMTY dates can be some of the best experiences you can have with independent escorts. However, as they require a lot of preparation from both sides, my suggestion is to go for at least 24 hours. If you consider the majority of FMTY escorts offer weekend packages at advantageous rates, it's a no brainer.

I'm a virgin that's thinking about hiring an escort. What should I know?

Believe it or not, many men hire an escort for their first time. Today, in Europe, it may no longer socially accepted, but until a few decades ago it was common for young men to have their first time with a prositute. In some cultures, that's still the case.

As with any other professional services, you should find an escort that you really like and has experience with your particular situation.

If you don't know how to choose, I suggest you go for an experienced, well reviewed, 30-40 years old, down to earth companion that specialises in girlfriend experience.

Escorts know your first time it's important. You may be tense about it and feel a lot of pressure to make your first time being memorable, but don't forget sex takes practice.

Don't look at your first time like a one-time all-or-nothing experience, take a broader view. Look at your first sexual experiences as a journey into self-awareness and pleasure.

What if I am really shy?

If you are really shy, you could get comfortable with your companion of choice by taking things one step at a time. And no, the escort will not be upset that you're taking your time.

Escorts care about their personal safety, being paid the agreed amount for the agreed time and that their boundaries are respected. They care you're having a good time. Good escorts want that their customer feels comfortable and safe as well.

An escort should not make you feel bad for being shy or inexperienced, or for being yourself at all.

With that said, not all escorts are able to offer the experience you might want. Higher rates should come with better service, but it's not like that 100% of the times.

If you don't feel comfortable, leave. You'll lose the money, but you'll save yourself from a bad first time experience.

How do I book an independent escort?

Each escort has a different process that's explained in their ad. Most independent escorts take bookings via email or booking forms and may require some form of verification and a deposit. You'll need to book at least a day in advance. Booking at least week in advance is advised if you're planning an overnight or longer appointment.

Escorts expect a detailed request that includes a location, a date and a time. If it's your first time booking the escort of your choice, a 2-3 sentences introduction is expected as well.

Each escort is different. Usually they state how long it takes for them to respond. If you follow their process and send a detailed request, most escorts should respond within 24 hours.

What should I do during a date with an escort?

You should have a good a time, together!

Besides the time limitation, a date with an escort is not that different from a no-strings attached date. The date is about you, so be yourself and fullfill your desires.

Still, an escort is a person and they want to have a good date too. All you have to do is be respectful of what you agreed to and considerate of her boundaries.

How do I know my date was a good one?

This is where escort dates can be different. If you read online reviews, you'll get the idea that it's about having great sex and it boils down to how good the escort is in bed.

Good sex is nice to have, but it shouldn't be the main factor. It should be about intimacy and connection. Would you say a date of meaningful conversations and idea exchanges was terrible because her sexual performance was not top tier?

An escort should never make you feel ashamed of your body or uncomfortable for being yourself. If she behaves in a way that makes you feel anxious, it's her fault - though she may do so unknowingly.

Experienced escorts chare more, but they are more attentive, so you get what you pay for.

How do I review an escort?

If you want to review an escort, you should talk about the experience in general and how well you two clicked.

Regardless of how good or bad they went. Don't write about any bedroom activities unless the date was about a speciality she offers.